Spend time with your loved ones
“Whether one believes in religion or not, there is no one who does not appreciate love and compassion. Right from the moment of our birth, we are under the care and kindness of our parents; later in life, when facing the sufferings of disease and old age, we are again dependent on the kindness of others. If at the beginning and end of our lives we depend upon others’ kindness, why then in the middle should we not act kindly towards others?” – Dalai Lama
When was the last time you told your family and close personal friends that you loved them? Whatever your answer, do it today. My father passed away recently and he always has been around me, my mom and brothers. He was doing so much for all of us and giving so much love and care. Nobody ever thought that a day will come when he won’t be around anymore. This day came so unexpectedly, that now I would do anything to have him back into our lives, but it is too late.
People are so concerned with their promotions at work, beautiful clothes, cars and other material things, that we forget that the most important is people in our lives. We fight with each other and care about being right that we spend so much time in grudges and hate. All of that is so meaningless. The most important is to care and value people in our lives while they are around. Any day could be the day when it will be too late to tell loved ones how much they meant to us over the years.
I know that for many of us, expressing those kinds of feelings isn’t easy. That’s true for me, but I’ve been trying to overcome those barriers. Even if that’s too difficult for you, I recommend that you just hang out with your family or treasured friends. Talk to them. Listen to them. Understand them.
Just spending a little time with someone shows that you care, shows that they are important enough that you’ve chosen — out of all the things to do on your busy schedule — to find the time for them. And if you go beyond that, and truly connect with them, through good conversation, that says even more. Many times its our actions, not just our words, that really speak what our hearts feel.
Taking the time to connect with those you love will bring you true happiness. The more you do it, the happier you’ll be.
Here are some tips:
- Have 5 minutes? Send an email. It doesn’t take long to send an email to someone you care about, asking them how they are, wishing them a good day. And that little gesture could go a long way, especially if you follow it up over time with regular emails.
- Have 10 minutes? Call them up. A phone call is an easy way to connect with someone. It’s conversation, without the need for travel.
- Have 30 minutes? You might not get the chance to do this every day, but at least once a week, take 30 minutes to drop in on someone you love and just visit. It’ll be some of the best 30 minutes you’ll spend this week.
- Have a couple hours? Have a good lunch or go somewhere with a loved one. Who among us doesn’t have a couple of free hours each month? Weekends, or evenings, there’s got to be a time that you spend in front of the TV or mindlessly surfing the internet. Take a chunk of that time, and devote it to a friend or family.
Really focus on them. Don’t just spend time with someone but think about your work, or the errands you have to run. Pay attention to that person. Listen. Really be there, in that moment, with that person. Because that’s a moment you’ll never get back, so spend it wisely.
Have a blast. Tell jokes, crack each other up, do something fun and spontaneous. Really have a great time!