Why people cheat and how to prevent it
People cheat for the following reasons:
When people are together for a long time and everything is the same everyday, then they get bored with each other and try to find an excitement on the side just to feel alive.
What to do: That’s why it is extremely important to be different everyday, to surprise each other and be unpredictable. People love variety. Do something that makes both of you feel alive. Learn how to dance some exotic hot dance types and dance for him, plan an exciting adventure trip to surprise her.
When partners don’t feel close and connected
Sometimes people live together for a long time and still feel like strangers to each other. It happens because people don’t open up to each other and afraid of being vulnerable. If there is no closeness in a relationship then people cheat on each other because they try to belong and find closeness on the side. Real deep connection is what everyone of us needs and wants. Cheating on someone close to you is like lying to yourself, you can’t hide anything, because connection and soul contact gets broken.
What to do: All it takes is courage to be vulnerable in a relationship and you will experience real intimacy and connection with your loved one. If you are really connected, then your partner will never cheat on you. Tell each other all the secrets you have from each other. Ask how the person is feeling. Help and support your partner if he/she is experiencing hard emotions. Trust each other without caring about consequences.
There is no love
When there is no love, people cheat and try to find love elsewhere.
What to do: If the partner doesn’t love you, and you really love him/her then give your partner a chance to fall in love with you. Create deep connection; be open and vulnerable to each other. Give your partner space. Be interesting and different all the time. However, if you know he/she doesn’t love you, and you don’t feel it anymore, just leave. You will leave anyways, than you better do it now. That way you open the door to meet your true love and be truly happy.
Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If someone hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.
What to do: If he/she cheated on you, you don’t need to put yourself that low. The person who cheated on you doesn’t respect himself/herself. He didn’t betray you, he betrayed himself/herself. All you should know is that you gave trust to someone who didn’t deserve it. Say “thank you” for all the good that person has done to you and move on. There is the whole world with exciting opportunities and people. Time will cure your pain of feeling betrayed, but remember, if your ex-partner cheated on you, there is nothing wrong with you, but he/she has psychological problems and he will do it over and over again.
Sometimes people always fight and treat each other really bad. In this case people cheat on each other because they want someone to love them and be nice to them.
What to do: I recommend leaving the abusers. You deserve to be treated the best way. If you are miserable together now, what is the point staying together?
Way to feel attractive again
Sometimes when you’re in a long relationship, or if your significant other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you’re still attractive. If you have an affair, you’ve proven that a new person can be attracted to you.
What to do: You should always feel attractive, and it doesn’t matter if men/women are looking at you or not. You should know your value, it is not about your look, it is who you are inside. How do you feel about yourself? Feel that you are enough, and then you won’t need a validation from the world around you. Treat your partner the best way possible, this will help you create happy relationship. Blaming him/her for not giving you enough will lead you both to nowhere. You are together to enjoy life. Create deep connection with each other, have exciting plans for the future and he/she will never need anybody but you.
Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly, risking getting caught, and creating thrilling moments with a forbidden romance. In my opinion, this is an immature behavior. Everything will be revealed one day.
What to do: There are 2 options: 1) give him/her excitement and thrill at home, surprise each other, be deeply connected, etc. 2) leave him for cheating and move on.
Some people cheat on their partners just because they can. They might be in committed relationships and love their partners but they would cheat because of their natural response without having any feelings to a woman/man on the side. Some men think that if they cheat on their wives, they don’t really cheat, because they love their wives and still live with them. However, those men should ask themselves if they would like their wives to cheat on them and have the same thinking.
What to do: Create a closer connection.
That’s natural that feelings change and people fall in love with somebody on the side. Many people start cheating before really leaving their old partners.
What to do: If your partner’s feelings changed for you, then you should respect it and let him/her go. If this is the case for you, then you better talk to your partner and explain the situation, divorce/break-up and then go to your new partner, just out of respect for your both partners and for your own self-respect.
Not getting what you want in the current relationship
Some people want more passion, love and understanding in the relationships, so if they don’t get it, they go cheat.
What to do: If you feel that your partner is not giving what you need at home, let the person know. Cheating is just letting your partner know that you did not care for him/her one bit, because if you did you would took their feelings into consideration, because wouldn’t you want your feelings to be taken into consideration as well?
Sometimes we try to communicate feelings to our partners explaining that their certain behaviour hurts, but the partner doesn’t hear it and continues with the same hurting behavior. After a while of being hurt so much we cross this person out of our heart and mind and we want to move away from the pain the person causes us. What people do is find somebody else who will be more attentive and careful with our feelings.
What to do: The main advice here is to listen to each other and care for each other feelings. Treat your partner the way you want to be treated. Listen carefully what he/she has to say. Give feedback and think what you can do to make your partner feel better.
These are some common reasons why people cheat. Would you ever put up with cheating? Would you ever cheat on your partner?